Have you already given up on your New Year’s Resolution but you still want to accomplish your big goal? Or are you tired of trying to achieve a goal that you never seem to be able to achieve?
What if I told you that all you need is a simple way to tweak your brain into believing the impossible is possible?
Regardless of your goal, when you start to set any goal your brain is going to seize up and tell you it is a bad idea. What happens then is we tell ourselves we need to be “more realistic” or “more logical.” What this really means is, “I don’t want to be uncomfortable.” This is one of the primary reasons that people don’t set goals. They don’t want to feel uncomfortable or be disappointed when they don’t follow through.
One way you can trick your brain is by stating the obvious. When setting a big goal, you already know that your goal is impossible and that you could fail and that is part of the journey. If you tell your brain that you already know it is impossible and that you could fail then your brain stops arguing with you.
Now, your brain might ask, “If you are going to fail why would you even try?” Here is the clincher – if you don’t try, isn’t that failing too? Think about it, if you try you might fail but if you don’t try you simply fail ahead of time. Consider this – it is basically a nothing has been lost type of failure instead of a failure where you get the strategic byproduct of learning, growing and achieving more than if you had done nothing. When you fail ahead of time you get nowhere. This is why you get stuck, stagnant, and trapped wondering why your business isn’t growing or why you aren’t achieving your life’s purpose.
There are two types of fails, one is a worthy fail and the other is an escape fail. An escape fail means that you fail ahead of time by not trying. A worthy fail is one where you took action but you didn’t get the exact result that you wanted. For example, if your goal is to learn how to recruit or hire better people for your business, then the hour you spend interviewing someone who is not a good fit would be a worthy fail. Not interviewing someone at all is an escape fail.
What is counter-intuitive is that when you open yourself up to doing the impossible and are willing to fail, your life becomes bigger and you gain the confidence to keep striving towards your impossible goal and the next impossible goal. Think about it this way, what is possible as the person you are today and who do you need to become to achieve your goal?
Let’s use your business as an example. You want to grow your business but you keep hitting a ceiling of achievement. What if breaking through your ceiling of achievement is simply a matter of the thoughts you choose to think on the way to achieving your impossible goal? What if the discomfort you feel every day is not an indicator to stop but an indicator that you are on the right track? Anytime we take new action our brain is going to tell us it is a bad idea and that we should go back into the cave. As a business person, the minute you are aware that your brain is just trying to protect you, then you can use the discomfort to your advantage. I talk about this extensively in my blog Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway.
What’s even better is I have great news! The worst thing that can happen as you work to accomplish your impossible goal is a negative feeling. Think about it? What do you really have to lose? If you try to accomplish something impossible you will get further than you are now and the only downside is the negative emotion that we might feel.
For me, this has been one of the most important concepts I’ve learned over the last 18 months. I learned that if I wanted to achieve great things with my life and business, discomfort and negative emotion are part of the growth experience. Then I realized that I can easily sit with a negative emotion – it is simply a vibration in the body. What this has done for me is helped me continue to take action even when it feels icky.
Here are a few steps to get started:Consider where you want to be one year from now? What is the opportunity cost of not achieving your dream? Escape fails are the biggest dream stealers out there because it means you fail before you even start.Take out a sheet of paper and write down all of the impossible goals you would like to focus on this year. Fill in every line on your sheet of paper.Pick only one goal from the list. Don’t take a lot of time, pick something that you know will do a great job of growing you as a person.Write down your impossible goal and the exact results that prove it has been achieved. For example, if you have an income goal your result to prove it might be your W2, 10-99, or tax return.Make a list of all of the strategies you will use to achieve your impossible goal.Create a list of 25 worthy fails per quarter. Yes, you will plan to fail 25 times per quarter on the way to achieving your impossible goal.Revisit your goal daily and coach yourself through any discomfort.
In closing, think about who you want to be a year from now, create your impossible goal to support that and then fail your way to success.
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